My daughter woke up today and asked me if we could go ride her bike. So outside we went and I said are you ready to try without your training wheels?
You could see the mixed emotions in her eyes… the fear, the remember of the pain the last time she tried and fell, the doubt (I can’t do this, I’m not ready, the bike is too big, ”insert excuse here”)…then she thought about the excitement of it and the thrill of being able to ride with her brothers all around the neighborhood and campground this summer.
Guess which emotion won out? As soon as she started to VISUALIZE herself riding with her brothers and having the freedom to ride around the neighborhood…it overcame her fears. Of course she asked for support, she asked me for advice, she asked me to hold on until she was ready.
As her coach I kept trying to tell her that once she figures out the balance…it will be easy. I can’t teach you that…you gotta feel it. I won’t let you fall, but you got to do the work. Within 30 minutes she was riding on her own.
Last fall we tried this many times and it always ended up in tears and frustration? What changed today? Sure she is a little older, but she was more than ready last fall. What changed is SHE MADE UP HER MIND to do it and the goal of riding with her friends this summer was way stronger than the possibility of a few falls.
How often do we do this in our adult lives? How often do we let the excuses determine our course of action?
I challenge you…VISUALIZE what your next goal will look like and what it will feel like and allow those to wash away any doubt. Ask for advice, ask for support…but be ready to ride all on your own. YOU CAN DO IT!
You are an adult now…so you can write on the mirror without getting in trouble! OK, I’m going to share something with you that will make a HUGE difference in your life. It might feel funny and seem strange, but just do it!
Get a dry erase marker and write your goal across your bathroom mirror. This way you will see yourself IN your goal every morning while getting ready, every evening while getting ready for bed and throughout the day. Every time you go into the bathroom and see that on your mirror, feel the feelings of how it feels to have achieved this goal, even if it’s just for a few seconds. This is going to train your subconscious mind and get it used to having achieved your goal. Once your subconscious mind gets it, it’s only a matter of time.